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Tuesday, April 19, 2005

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Kelvin

Like you Cee, I was raised around a lot of strong women, the ones that did all the Man-Shyt that Ted often speaks about.


I also have a daughter and can only hope that she picks up some of those same characteristics from the women surrounding her in her everyday life...

Great.Post

Brown Sugar

Great post. Inspiring even. Referring to the strength of the women you were surrounded by while growing up.
By the way, good luck in your future investment endeavors!!!

princessdominique

Very interesting post. I'll be back. It's great when people share openly and freely.

cee

Kelvin- LMAO @ Man Shyt. When dudes aren't around, sometimes we just have to woMAN up.

Brown Sugar- What a pleasure seeing you up in here. I've been checking your page for quite some time. I love your honesty. You are one of the few people that I really believe when reading your stuff. Thanks for coming by.

Princess- What a gwan. Checked out your page and all that good stuff that you have going on. I'll certainly be back. You know, I've just gotten to the point where I feel like I just need to be open with my sharing. Things that I once deemed too private to share, I've seen many other bloggers talk about. So, why not be open about it? I mean, there are people out there who have been through or will go through the same things.

littletail

very interesting post, cee. i don't know if i'd label those characteristics as being "male" as your friend did. a lot of people, both men and women, are raised or placed in circumstances which force them to become self-sufficient, strong and independent. i think it is great to be like that, although those of us who are tend to have a hard time accepting help when we really do need it. lol. yeah, i was raised to be self-sufficient and independent as well. i grew up in a home where dad didn't say much of anything to us kids, and mom ruled with an iron fist. she evidentally saw the need to make me strong and able to do for myself. funny, cuz she raised my brother the exact opposite way. he is still clinging to their apron strings.

littletail

very interesting post, cee. i don't know if i'd label those characteristics as being "male" as your friend did. a lot of people, both men and women, are raised or placed in circumstances which force them to become self-sufficient, strong and independent. i think it is great to be like that, although those of us who are tend to have a hard time accepting help when we really do need it. lol. yeah, i was raised to be self-sufficient and independent as well. i grew up in a home where dad didn't say much of anything to us kids, and mom ruled with an iron fist. she evidentally saw the need to make me strong and able to do for myself. funny, cuz she raised my brother the exact opposite way. he is still clinging to their apron strings.

Edwige

This is a great post. I was raised by a my mom and she was my rock but since my dad was still in the picture (my parents were divorced but I saw my dad 2x a year) I grew up recenting the fact that he wasn't around to help us even though my mom always told me she'd rather raise me alone without any help because she'd known she could do it all by herself.

Not sure I'm making any sense but its early in the morning lol!

Edwidge, Thanks. I totally understand that feeling. It's weird for me though. I just grew up with a feeling of indifference. I think the reaso why was because my father left the country and went to live in Nigeria. So we didn't see him at all, for 17 years. My mom did it all by herself because as she said, "being married to your father was just the same as living by yourself. He never assisted in raising his children." I don't know many women that admit that they can do it alone and make the choice to do so. That's strength.

Yolanda

Love this post, Cee. I came up in a predominantly female-geared household. I guess you can see from my posts, I too, held it down in sports versus playing the diva role. Shoot, it's really taken age and *ahem* a certain person to soften me up. Something I said would never happen. LOL

Before I go off begging for somebody to do something for me, I'll sit my ass down and get it together myself. That doesn't mean we have he-man qualities. That just means we take care of business. woMAN up! hehehe

And I feel you on the treating some people like business. You gotta do what you gotta do. LOL They wanna play games, they should read the instructions.

You said this was your bad side--did I miss something? It all sounded so real to me AND not bad at all.

You know Yolanda, I think I don't really consider to be bad as much as other people that I am in constant contact with do. The reality is that most of the women, outside and even including my female friends, have grown up in this society that demands that they don't embrace parts of them that are not deemed to be ultra feminine. I don't think there is anything wrong with possessing a certain sense of self and strength. That does not mean that I do not subscribe in some way, to a patriarchal society. But what happens when all the men that we've depended on leave us to fend for ourselves? Some insist on just finding another man. I can't live like that. Maybe a certain someone in my life will one day "tame" me, but for now, I'm holding shit down by my lonely. LOL

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